People often think that charisma needs a powerful, strong, and dominating personality. This type of personality makes a good effect on the screen, or stage. But bring that same person in front of you over a dinner, and you may feel a bit slighted, or overpowered. Your experience will lose intimacy. The human touch will be amiss. You may not enjoy the experience of being dominated.
Strength is weakness, and gentleness is strength.
You whisper to people you are the closest to. You get intimate with them. This is the time you are most gentle. If you start bringing this gentleness to everyone, then you will get intimate with everyone. Suddenly, you will feel close to everyone. That's the power of gentleness. Gentleness is a winner.