You are the author. The book is your autobiography. Only you can hold the pen. If someone holds it, then it becomes a biography.
Live your beliefs. If you do so, you live naturally. Live your dreams, your hope. Live your joy. Live your love. Live for your peace. Then, you will feel the bliss of the ownership of your life.
When we refer to holding the pen, we don't refer to arrogance, or rigidity. We don't mean being disrespectful to others. We mean to live through the joy of independence, the joy of freedom. That happens when you become the captain of your ship, the master of your destiny.
Hold the pen when you write the story of your life !