Hurt is natural. Some people are more hurtful than others. They are prone to saying negative, hurtful things. But hurt should not be considered as dependent on the other person alone. It depends on you also. Life hurts you as much as you allow it to.
To blame others for your hurt is not exactly right. Because they may have caused you hurt in this case. But the real cause is karmic. The hurt you may have caused someone else has come back to you. Life hurts you as much as you allow it to.
We build castles of expectations from our close ones. When they are not met, we feel hurt. Expect less, give more. Life hurts you as much as you allow it to.
If we could build a defence castle around our heart which no one could penetrate so as to hurt, then that would be a perfect insulation. This defence castle has the following attributes:
* without expectations
It's a simple castle which anyone can understand. But it requires a lot of hard work to build in real life. Life allows you to hurt as much you allow it to.