Love is a state of being. It's internal. It's within you. You have to feel your own love.
Other people can only give you love. But that is external. And in that, you are a receiver. To feel love you can't be at the mercy of someone to give it. You have to be the giver.
But you can't give love, till you feel love within. Love is not intelligence. You can't understand love. You can only feel love. When you develop love for yourself, only then can you transmit love. The language of love is intimacy. Intimacy is within. Love is a state of being.