When we see beautiful human qualities in someone only 2 things are possible - admiration or jealousy. When we admire, it means we surrender. When we are jealous, it means we compete.
When we surrender to a guru, we can slowly become like him. But if we don't surrender, he will not be able to mold yourself in his mirror image. If you wish to surrender yourself, surrender only to greatness. Then slowly, you will become a part of that greatness.
Often we get jealous of others who are more charismatic than us, or more successful. This jealousy makes us uneasy. We now want to destroy the charisma or the success of the other person. When you try and destroy another, in reality you are destroying your soul. Life is not a competition all the time. Buy your peace. Surrender to greatness.