Loss happens when you have feeling of ownership. If you cling to something, you cannot let it go. This attachment is the cause of your pain. You are a loser because you are not willing to lose.
You can become free if you lose attachment. You achieve freedom. Because you are willing to lie naked in front of the universe with nothing to call your own. You have destroyed your identity, you have killed your ego, now you are free.
We feel attached to our possessions. To our social status. To our power. To our wealth. And above all to our relationships. We are not willing to lose. We have now become weak. We are attached.
Lose the attachment. Be prepared to lose. Feel detached. Feel like a winner.
You can only lose if it is your attachment.